Chafing, strife, conflict is the condition inside which spiritual growth can be attained. Peace, quiet, silence is exactly the opposite condition, therefore no spiritual growth happens.
Just like a fire won’t become big fire unless it is bothered by winds, just like love will be a tepid business unless there is opposing energies, you won’t become the best you can be, unless you are willing to accept that strive, chafing, conflict, pain and suffering is the path.
You may not know it, but people “in the business” of spirituality do.